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Category Archives: Family
THIS; NOW
When I was diagnosed with cancer seven years ago, I inevitably became preoccupied with my own mortality. The vibrant immediacy of the life I had been living before the moment of my diagnosis was eclipsed by the terrifying reality that … Continue reading
Posted in Death, Family
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cancer ate my feminism (or did it?)
Last month, I had the good fortune to finally meet a remarkable fellow cancer fighter (and writer) with whom I’ve had a years-long virtual relationship. As has happened many times before, when these virtual connections become “real,” I was struck … Continue reading
reclaiming complexity
Many months ago, around the time of my son’s first birthday, I was prompted by a friend to reflect on my decision to leave my job as a child advocate attorney to become a stay-at-home mother. I shared my thoughts … Continue reading
Posted in adoption, Family, Life After Cancer, Work
Tagged complexity, conundrum, decisions, working parents
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holding it all
Life can be extreme. Our fears can consume us; joy can make us feel like our hearts will burst. Holding it all, simultaneously, as I was made to do recently, can seem nothing short of defying emotional gravity. There are … Continue reading
Posted in cancer, Family, medicine, running, yoga
Tagged biopsy, colposcopy, fear, maxi-pad, PAP test, stirrups, ujjayi breath
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the other shoe
We survivors possess many unique skills. Chief among them may be our ability to consciously deny our persistent, nagging fear of The Other Shoe Dropping. It’s essential, if we want to keep on living in any meaningful, joyful way. Most … Continue reading
Posted in cancer, Family, Life After Cancer, medicine
Tagged denial, fear, joy, low-grade dysplasia, panic, PAP test
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burning doubt – lessons from a yoga mala
At 5:30 this morning, I offered up all of my doubt to the forces of balance and harmony in the universe. Then, along with about 10 other women, I performed 108 sun salutations – a yoga mala to mark the … Continue reading
Posted in Family, Life After Cancer, Philadelphia, Work, yoga
Tagged childcare, desperate housewife, doubt, Earl, instincts, NPR, sabbatical, stay-at-home mom, sun salutations, yoga mala
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no time to waste
Four years ago, during a heatwave not unlike the one we are now experiencing, I lay confined in the partially air-conditioned recesses of our rented home in Northern Liberties, hanging on to the edges of the life with which four … Continue reading
Posted in adoption, Family, Life After Cancer, Philadelphia, Work
Tagged ambivalence, cancer's legacy, children, choices, happiness, heartbreak, heatwave, law, meaning, mother, working parents
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a cat, and cancer’s complicating curse
Last week, we put our first pet to sleep. Gracie the orange tabby was with us for over ten years – through 9/11, our wedding, the arrival of Lucy the basset hound, cancer…the list goes on. For a few weeks … Continue reading
ready for anything
If there’s one thing cancer teaches us, it’s to be flexible, and ready to adapt to any and all circumstances. Try as we might to control our surroundings, to plan for an ever-elusive future, there’s simply no way we can … Continue reading
Posted in Baseball, Family, Life After Cancer
Tagged cheesesteak, Cliff Lee back to school gym bag, control, Harry Potter, Hurricane Irene, nephew, New York, Oscar, over-night, Phillies, planning, popcorn
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ghost child
This evening as I was leaving work, one of my colleagues, who was my office-mate when my nephew was born six years ago, asked me how he was doing. Actually, her exact words were, “How’s my man doing?,” and I … Continue reading
Posted in adoption, Family, Film, Infertility, Life After Cancer
Tagged adoption, Bubz Junior, chemotherapy, dreams, fertility treatment, genes, ghost child, gratitude, grief, infertility, menopause, nephew, peace, pregnancy, Rabbit Hole
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