Category Archives: Infertility

invisible touch

In an unexpected twist of fate, the presence of these writings in the public space of the Internet has revealed deep and difficult connections between my status as a cancer survivor and an adoptive mother.  I owe this in large … Continue reading

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a complicated miracle: parents at last

Yesterday, a young woman reached out to me on this neglected blog, and shared a glimpse of her own cancer journey.  She was diagnosed with ovarian cancer last fall at age 25, and is currently battling the post-treatment demons that … Continue reading

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not yet

I’ve reached the point where I have a stock reply when people ask if I have children:  “Not yet.”  It’s simple, straightforward and conveys my intention to be a parent.  Most people who ask me don’t know about my cancer … Continue reading

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a survivor’s wait

Recently, I connected with the folks at curetoday.com, the on-line branch of the well-known cancer publication, CURE.  They frequently accept contributions from guest bloggers, and I told them I’d be interested in writing about my experience as a cancer survivor … Continue reading

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anticipation/transformation

Life is becoming about so much more than cancer.  Specifically, it has become about building our family.  We first engaged with our adoption agency in the fall, and now, as winter winds down, we are literally just hours away from … Continue reading

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ghost child

This evening as I was leaving work, one of my colleagues, who was my office-mate when my nephew was born six years ago, asked me how he was doing.  Actually, her exact words were, “How’s my man doing?,” and I … Continue reading

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baby steps

 My inclination at the moment is to stack up today’s minor emotional setback against the nightmares that so many other fighters and survivors are enduring, and just let it go.  It’s almost embarrassing to admit these feelings, but I … Continue reading

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leap of faith

Thursday night, Mike and I attended a workshop on the effects of substance abuse during pregnancy.  Our agency, Open Arms, does a fabulous job of making the adoption process all about “lifelong learning,” and one of the areas they want … Continue reading

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the readiness is all

Desperate to resume “living” as quickly as possible after finishing chemotherapy in June of 2008, I returned to work – part-time, and in a limited capacity, but returned nonetheless – just three short weeks after my last treatment.  In hindsight, … Continue reading

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chocolate shakes and ’80′s pop

A wise person once said, “You don’t have to write a thousand words every time you sit down to do a post.”  The same wise person has also said, “One of your great gifts as a writer is how direct … Continue reading

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